The Child Also Has The Right To Speak
Kamis, 05 Desember 2013
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Provide an opportunity
However, any notion built seerat, parents cannot always be passing a request. The issue is how these children were arrested in disagreement either, and not stuck in the authoritarian attitude of the parents?
Here is frankly a wide gray. We can firmly Nah-very firmly. You see, toddlers if wanted something baseball we can talk logically 100%. But at least, the opportunity was there already, "said Irwanto.
Then so parents decided something that according to them the most good, at first child there must be a sense of baseball. But if that is done, the child will often start to think, my parents certainly have a reason here. Consider that although not 100% logical for him, but he knows it means that at least it is not evil. More important is the son finally know his parents were not close communication.
At a seminar asserted that one of the factors determining the success of democracy in education lies in parenting that is developed in the family environment. The role of the mother is very necessary to create a democratic atmosphere in the family. Moreover, a mother is parental figure who became a role model for young children, so it is not redundant if the success of planting their democratic values among other things depending on how the efforts of the mother in nurturing and educating children in a family environment.
Philosophy of religion expert Dr. Komarudin Hidayat looked at the need for an understanding of the parents about the traditional parenting differences with modern-day parenting. Once the children were raised in the pattern komunalistik. But now with a variety of parenting.
In anticipation of the rapid development of social necessary updates to parenting in the family environment which is rated not less democratic and anticipatory of changes. To that end, the policy taken Movement PKK who tries to teach parenting children specifically to mothers throughout Indonesia through a package called "parenting children in families" should be supported by all parties.
Parenting children through outreach activities of this simulation is intended to help enhance the knowledge of mothers in parenting efforts, especially for the mother is loaded with activities outside the home.
Communication in a democratic family will succeed, if each of its members to interact in an atmosphere of dialogis. One of the democratic values that must be inculcated in children early is openness. Openness is one of the best ways to educate children.
Some mistake, realized or not, often made parents against children. For example, when a child does not want to be left to his parents to the Office. Then mostly done by parents is the deception.
That way the children thus obstructed to become personal. In fact they need explanations and experience what it is. So they can know that parents and children can not always together. But in presenting explanations to the child, parents should pay close attention to the level of understanding. The explanation provided must be direct, open, convincingly, and optimistic.
According to sociologist Prof. Dr. Jatiman Sarjono, in the life of a modern and democratic family, sued the new communication patterns as a means of interaction between parents and children. Each family can take advantage of a unique situation, either at the dinner table, when watching TV, or another setting that can be developed, in order for communication between family members.
Ready to accept corrections
Climate dialogis and openness need to be created in the family environment. This is expected to be an attempt to prepare the children to be able to communicate, so they are trained to be able to accept and listen to others. This condition must be supported with the readiness of the parents receiving correction from a child. For example, if children begin to show an attitude of protest, not that Brash or children against parents, but rather an expression of his desire to be noticed and appreciated.
Therefore, parents need to listen to the complaints of democratic and respect his opinion. But action is not recommended is to do an emphasis towards children to express emotions and feelings. For parents, the attitude in the face of something will have an effect on the attitude of the child.
The courage to ask and suggested as part of a life of democracy, should start from the family. When a child is raised in a family that authoritarian, it is likely he is not brave enough to ask and argued. However, the school also have the opportunity to drive the children dared to present the opinion. It really depends on the curriculum and how to teach it.
However, there is a tendency to create spontaneity has not progressed because the teacher burdened should thus and so. Whereas, the left and right brain to develop in a balanced way. Children should not only told to study and memorize, but stimulated his creativity in order to be able to find something.
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