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Based Grotberg (1995 : 15 ) there are three abilities or three factors that make up resilience resilience . For external support and resources , used the term ' I Have ' . For the power of the individual , in the individual used the term ' I Am ' , while for the interpersonal skills used istilah'I Can ' .

1.I Have
I Have a factor external support and resources in improving the bending . Before the child will realize who he was ( I Am ) or what he can do ( I Can ) , children need external support and resources to develop a feeling of safety and security that laid the foundation , which is core to develop resilience .
This aspect is beyond help and source of that increase resilience . Sources are as follows :

a) Trusting relationships ( trust relationship )
Parents , other family members , teachers , and friends who love and accept the child . Children of all ages need unconditional love from their parents and primary care providers ( primary care givers ) , but they need love and emotional support from other adults as well . Love and support of others can sometimes compensate for the lack of affection from parents .

b) Structure and rules at home
Parents who provide routine and clear rules , expect children to follow their behavior , and can rely on the child to do so . Rules and routines that include tasks that are expected to be done by children . Limits and consequences of the behavior are understood and clearly stated . If the rules are violated , children are helped to understand that what he is doing is wrong , then encouraged to tell him what happened , if necessary punished , then forgiven and reconciled an adult . Parents do not harm the child with punishment , and there is no let others harm the child .

c) Role models
Parents , other adults , brothers , and peers act in ways that demonstrate the desired behavior and acceptable , both in the family and other people . They show how to do things , such as dressing or ask for information and it will encourage children to imitate them . They serve as a model of morality and can introduce the child to religious rules .

d) Encouragement to be autonomous
Adults , especially the elderly , encourage the child to do something without the help of others and try to seek the help they need to help children to become autonomous . They praise the child when he exhibited the initiative and autonomy . Adults aware of the child's temperament , temperament as their own , so they can adjust the speed and level temperament to encourage children to be autonomous .

2 . I Am
I Am a strength factor that comes from within oneself . These factors include the feelings , attitudes , and beliefs within the child . There are some parts of the factor of I Am namely :

a) feeling loved and interesting behavior
The children are aware that people like and love him . Children will be kind to the people who like and love him . A person can set the attitude and behavior when faced with different responses when talking to others .

b) Love , empathy , and altruistic
Children love other people and the affection expressed in many ways . He cares about what happens to other people and expressed concern that through actions and words . Children feel uncomfortable and suffer because of other people and wanted to do something to stop or share the pain or pleasure .

c) Proud of myself
Children knew he was someone important and feel proud of who he is and what can be done to pursue his desire . Children will not let others belittle or humiliate him. When people have problems in life , self-confidence and self -esteem to help them to survive and overcome the problem
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d) Autonomy and responsibility
Children can do things his own way and accept the consequences of his behavior . Child feel that he can be independent and take responsibility for it. Individuals understand their control limits for the various activities and find out when others are responsible .

e) Hope , faith , and trust
Children believe that there is hope for him and that there are people and institutions that can be trusted . Children feel a sense of right and wrong , true believers will win , and they want to contribute to this . Children have the confidence and belief in morality and kindness , and to declare it as a belief in God or a higher spiritual being .

3 . I Can
" I can " is the ability of the individual to express feelings and thoughts in communicating with others , solve problems in various life settings ( academic, vocational , personal and social ) and regulate behavior , as well as get help when they need it . There are some aspects that I can influence factors are:
a) Communicate
Children are able to express their thoughts and feelings to others and to listen to what others have to say and feel the feelings of others .

b) Troubleshooting
Children can assess a problem , the cause of the problem and know how to brake it . Children can discuss solutions with others to find solutions that are expected to carefully . He has the perseverance to stick with a problem until the problem can be solved .

c) Managing the various feelings and stimuli
Children can recognize their feelings , give designation emotions, and express it with words and behaviors that do not violate the feelings and rights of others or himself . Children can also manage the stimulus to hit , run away , breaking things , a variety of actions that are not fun .

d) Measure the temperament of myself and others.
Individuals understand their own temperament ( how to behave , stimulating , and take the risk or the silent , reflexes and be careful ) and also the temperament of others. It helps individuals to know how long it takes to communicate , helping individuals to know the speed to react , and how much an individual can succeed in a variety of situations

e) Looking for a trustworthy relationship
Children can find someone such as parents , siblings , peers to ask for help , share feelings and concerns , in order to find the best way to discuss and resolve personal and interpersonal problems .

References :
Grothberg , E. (1995 ) . A Guide to Promoting Resilience in Children : Strengthening the Human Spirit . The Series Early Childhood Development : Practice and Reflections . Number8 . The Hague : Benard van Leer Voundation .

Grothberg , E. (1999 ) . Tapping Your Inner Strength , Oakland , CA : New Harbinger Publications, Inc. .
Reivick , K & Shatte , A. (2002 ) . The Resilience Factor : 7 Essential Skills for Overcoming Life 's Inevitable Obstacles . New York : Broadway Books