Psychological development of Children Victims of Divorce
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For children a family is very important. The family as a place of refuge, and
get the love. Role of the family is very important to a child's development in the coming times,
both psychologically and physically. Families without
children will feel
alone, and there
is no place to take shelter.
When a divorce occurs is a critical period for children, especially the relationship with parents who do not live together. Feelings stirred within inner child. At this time the child also should begin to adapt to the new changes in his life. The things that are usually perceived by the child when the parents are divorced are:
When a divorce occurs is a critical period for children, especially the relationship with parents who do not live together. Feelings stirred within inner child. At this time the child also should begin to adapt to the new changes in his life. The things that are usually perceived by the child when the parents are divorced are:
• Feeling unsafe.
• Feeling unwanted or rejected by the parent who left.
• Angry Sad and lonely.
• Feeling lost, feeling alone, self-blame themselves as the cause of divorced parents.
• Feeling of first parents should not be with them, so he was not there and did not feel his parents' divorce.
• Feeling unwanted or rejected by the parent who left.
• Angry Sad and lonely.
• Feeling lost, feeling alone, self-blame themselves as the cause of divorced parents.
• Feeling of first parents should not be with them, so he was not there and did not feel his parents' divorce.
These feelings can cause the child to be afraid
of failure and fear of close relationships with
other people when I grow up. Some indicators
that a child has
to adapt is aware
and understands that
parents are no
longer together and no longer fantasize
for unity both parents, can receive a sense of
loss, not angry at the parents and do not
blame yourself, be himself.
It is inevitable in some cases of child psychology
child victims of divorce that will be very shaken because of the divorce in the
family . They would be devastated , lost hope , and tend to blame themselves
for what happened to his family . It is very difficult to find a way that children
find it helpful in dealing with tough times because her parents divorce . Even
if the father or mother trying to give the best that they can , good things are
still not able to eliminate the anxiety her children .
Some psychologists claim that the most important assistance that can be provided by a divorced parent who is trying to reassure and convince the kids that they are not guilty . Make sure that they do not have to feel the need to take responsibility for his parents' divorce . Another thing that needs to be done by parents who are divorcing are helping children to adjust to keep running the regular activities at home . Do not force kids to favor one of the parties who are bickering , and not once in a while involving them in the divorce process . Another thing that can help the children is to find another adult such as an aunt or uncle , which may temporarily fill the void left their hearts after his father or mother . That is, that the children were getting strut that enables them to search for a replacement father figure mother who is no longer present as when there is no divorce .
Some psychologists claim that the most important assistance that can be provided by a divorced parent who is trying to reassure and convince the kids that they are not guilty . Make sure that they do not have to feel the need to take responsibility for his parents' divorce . Another thing that needs to be done by parents who are divorcing are helping children to adjust to keep running the regular activities at home . Do not force kids to favor one of the parties who are bickering , and not once in a while involving them in the divorce process . Another thing that can help the children is to find another adult such as an aunt or uncle , which may temporarily fill the void left their hearts after his father or mother . That is, that the children were getting strut that enables them to search for a replacement father figure mother who is no longer present as when there is no divorce .
Therefore that children are not constantly feel
guilty , I think it very important for couples who have divorced to remain
unchanged attention from both sides of parents . The bottom line after all, in
the case of divorce , parents should remember how the feelings and interests of
the child . So before the divorce , think about it what is better and worse
what will happen . Parents should also keep control of emotions , feelings ,
and thoughts . Although it has been split up does not mean that children should
only choose one parent and pour and receiving affection from the parents too .
However children need a father and mother . Do not disconnect the child's relationship
with the other parent . Here, the sensitivity of the parents also need to
understand what they need will be felt . Parents who have custody of the child
should tell her partner but that does not mean menjelek - jelekkannya . If we
vilify ex- spouse , the child is in the required position to choose . Let them
see and know themselves so they can make their own decisions .
Refrence: Perdana,P. Jurnal Analisis Perkembangan Psikologis
Anak Korban Broken Home.(dalam http://panduperdana4694.blogspot.com).
Diunduh.01 November 2013.
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